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Nemer Haddad advice about how to Survive kidnapping

November 16, 2013

Don’t give them an excuse to mistreat you by not co-operating. Don’t give them an excuse to mistreat you by sticking out, by being too anxious. The thing is, the more anxious you are, the more anxious you end up making people. The more anxious you make people the more angry, the more dangerous, the more difficult you make them to deal with.

According to the police report, Berry told police that Castro forgot to lock the “big inside door” of the home on Monday, allowing her to escape. The screen door, however, was locked, but she was afraid to break it because she “thought Ariel was testing her.”

While the victim should act passive, he should be careful that he doesn't pass up a chance to escape if it presents itself. Usually after the initial first hours of the kidnapping the criminals will become careless if the victim has shown no signs of trying to escape. Unless the kidnapping victim is in immediate danger, he should bide his time and wait for a slip-up among the criminals and then use the opportunity to escape.

By kidnapping a foreigner, whose reactions you have no real ability to predict that’s adding an element that is uncontrollable and therefore more unattractive. Not only that, because kidnappers operate in their own environment they know what the government or the local law enforcements response is likely to be or not be.

Police arrived on the scene and went into Castro’s house. They checked the basement and walked to the second floor. The police report describes. “As we neared the top of the steps, Officer Espada hollered out, ‘Cleveland Police,’ at which time … Knight ran and threw herself into (Officer) Espada’s arms,” the report reads. “We then asked if there was anyone else upstairs with her, when (DeJesus) came out of the bedroom. “

No matter what you did, you end up tied up in the back of his van with duct tape all over you. How do you respond to this? You tell yourself to just breathe, and begin looking around fro something sharp to cut your tape with. You start hyperventilating, but eventually calm yourself down. You start screaming and trying to get your phone out You start freaking out, which causes you to hit your head on something and you pass out.

Never negotiate for yourself. I guarantee you’ll be the worst negotiator in the history of the world. Every hostage, in some point of their captivity, whether it’s after 24 hours or 24 months, feels as if they’ve been forgotten. You’ve got to have faith that there’s a lot of people on the outside dedicated to securing your release. The more you negotiate for yourself, the longer your captivity will be. It’s almost a rule – like a law of physics.


/Nemer Haddad